What if I Don’t Know What to Commit to: Life’s So Uncertain…
A few years ago, I could commit to everything—except the one thing that mattered most: myself.
I said yes to too many projects, too many places, too many dreams. I had the discipline. The focus. The drive. But not the grounded clarity of what I was actually building toward or what I wanted. I was running my life like a busy boardroom—with no real CEO in charge.
After burnout, ADHD spirals, and moving countries too many times to count—I realized: the first thing I needed to commit to wasn’t my work, my next location, or my next creative project.
It was me.
This post is about movement, when you want to be your own CEO.
But you don’t know where to start.
And don’t know where to lead yourself.
Because you spent years letting others lead you, and make decisions for you.
In short — you’re uncertain. But you still have to guide yourself.
So it’s not about getting everything perfect—but to practice the quiet, powerful art of choosing.
Choosing yourself. Choosing what matters.
Choosing again, and again.
1. Start With Commitment to Self
And if you are still unsure, just start with committing to yourself!
What is within your control?
How can you commit to yourself?
Commit to making your bed in the morning.
Commit to exercising
Commit to learning ONE thing
Commit to YOURSELF
Your health
Your vision for life and career → even if its fuzzy
2. Commit to What Actually Matters
So often we feel ungrounded, scattered, or disconnected—not because we’re incapable, but because we haven’t clearly anchored into what truly matters to us.
This is where you choose to commit to the right things — that get you from right now to where you want to go.
Because you know exactly what the gap is between the life you live and the life you want to live.
Try This:
Step 1: Write down…
What are the 5 things you value most in life right now?
Example:
Health
Financial stability
Relationships
Purposeful work
Creative expression
Your list might be different. What matters is that it’s honest.
Step 2: Now, visualize your ideal life in each of these categories. Write it down. This is your compass.
How would you feel?
What would life look like?
What would a typical day look like if it was fully aligned with these values?
Step 3: Next, look at the gap
Where are you now in each area?
Where are you misaligned, overextended, or not showing up the way you want to?
3. Turn Your Vision Into a Grounded “Commitment“ Plan for the Year
This is where your real commitment work begins.
Try this:
Step 1: On a fresh page, write:
“This year, I commit to…”
Step 2: Under each category you outlined in the step above write one clear commitment.
You can write up to 5 goals for each category for this year.
Then use the ideas below to cut down that list through out the year.
Example:
Health
“I commit to walking 30 minutes a day to support my health.”
Financial Stability
“I commit to saving $5,000 to create more financial peace.”
Purpose
“I commit to launching one aligned offering in my coaching business.”
“I commit to journaling or creating art once a week to express what I feel.”
Keep your vision where you can see it.
Tape it to the wall.
Make it your phone background.
Read it on Sundays.
The magic isn’t just in setting goals.
It’s in staying committed to them.
4. Recommit to What Actually Matter
Revisit your commitments every 3 months…
Most of us aren’t overwhelmed because we have too little time.
We’re overwhelmed because we’re dragging too many ideas, expectations, and unfinished dreams into the present.
Try this:
Look at your goals for the year.
Cut them in half.
Rewrite them as commitment statements again.
Examples:
“I am committed to publishing one blog post per week.”
“I am committed to doing 20 coaching sessions this year.”
Then let the pressure go. And just start.
If you’re still unsure…that’s ok → keeping reading for more tips.
How to Commit When You’re Uncertain or Don’t Trust Your Decisions
Sometimes, the hardest part of commitment isn’t showing up. It’s choosing what to commit to when the path ahead feels murky—like where to live, who to build with, or which idea to pursue. When your confidence is low and you’re swimming in options, it’s easy to freeze.
Here’s how to move forward—when you’re not sure what the right move is.
1. Learn to Sit With Uncertainty
You don’t need total clarity to move forward. Most of life unfolds through the fog. As Buddhist teacher Marc Lesser writes, “The opposite of uncertainty isn’t certainty—it’s confidence.” Uncertainty is not your enemy. It’s a threshold. And the more you learn to sit with it, the more peace you find in not knowing.
2. When You Don’t Know What to Commit to Because There’s too Many Option
Sometimes you’re stuck not because you lack options—
but because you have too many.
Especially when you’ve tried many paths, lived in different places, or lost clarity.
If you’re done the exercise above, but you still can’t choose between different paths, ideas, etc…
Try this:
Step 1:
Choose the option that feels most grounding, and doable this year. An option most likely to let you experiment, learn and give you feedback on what you should actually focus on.
Step 2:
Say: “This doesn’t have to be forever. But I commit to this for 1 month or 3 months.”
Step 3: Still unsure? Ask:
“If I had to make this decision from faith, not fear, what would I choose?”
Example:
I am choose to publish 30 posts on Instagram and LinkedIn, to test my idea of teaching people about sustainability, for free and learn from how people respond. This is also a container to learn a new skill and see if I would enjoy this type of creativity.
Worst case, I find a different way to help the earth. Best case, people learn from my content, I will get inspired and partner with a non-profit to raise funds through my following.
Either way it’s the right step into turning my passion into reality.
3. Go Back to Your Values
In the last posts we explored how to get clear on what your commitments are after you share what your values right now are.
In priority order.
So go back to your list of values. Was health on it? Then what is the most important thing can you commit doing that is related to your health?
Was your business on that list?
What is the number 1 thing that needs to get one next month to unblock the most issues or deliver the most results? You
4. Don’t Weigh 20 Options. Cut to 3.
We live in an age of infinite possibility, which sounds great… until you’re paralyzed.
Psychologists call this analysis paralysis.
Taoism would call it resisting the flow.
Pick 2–3 options and explore them gently.
Let go of the need to find “the best one.”
Focus on what’s good enough—and aligned.
5. Cut the Energetic Clutter
You’re not stuck because you’re lazy. You’re stuck because you’re overloaded.
Try this:
Step 1: Brain dump. List every idea, task, commitment, to-do, or dream that’s taking up mental space. Don’t just include goals, but things you’ve been wanting to do around the house, ideas from 10 years ago, presents you want to buy, etc.
Step 2: Sort it.
A = Urgent + aligned
B = Important but not urgent
C = Exciting, but not for now
D = Dead weight—expired dreams, old obligations, false pressure
Cut your A list in half. Focus on 1–2 things. That’s it.
6. Recommit to One Identity at a Time
Our society → especially social media makes us feel NOT ENOUGH!!!
We usually want to be 10 things at the same time
Because we see 10 different people living 10 exciting lives
And our brain tricks us into thinking we need to be everything
Mother
VP
Founder
Sound Healer or Yoga Teacher
Chef
Try this:
Step 1:
List all the identities you’re trying to hold.
Step 2:
Then ask: Which one needs the most love and attention right now?
Focus there. The rest can come in time.
7. Ask for a Mirror, Not Advice
You don’t need someone to tell you what to do—you need someone to reflect who you are. Choose a few grounded people who really see you, and talk it out. Let them remind you of your patterns, your power, and what they’ve seen you thrive in.
Sometimes the wisdom comes through someone else’s eyes.
8. Give Your Decisions a Deadline
Without a boundary, your brain will keep spinning. Create a container. “By Sunday night, I’ll decide.” Let yourself feel it fully, weigh your options, ask for insight. Then decide. The mind needs boundaries to access freedom.
This is also how Ayurveda teaches us to balance Vata energy: structure calms the wind.
9. Try Before You Commit Fully
If a choice feels too big—like moving to a new city or changing careers—try it in micro form. Rent for a month. Take a short course. Test the waters without going all in. This builds both data and confidence.
Confidence grows through experience—not perfection.
10. Redefine What Failure Means
You’re not scared to choose—you’re scared to be wrong. But most decisions are reversible. And even if they aren’t, they’re always teachable. Every step you take gives you more clarity for the next one. Life isn’t a pass/fail test. It’s an unfolding.
As James Clear says: motion builds clarity. Clarity builds confidence.
11. Be Gentle With Yourself
If you’re feeling stuck or indecisive, it doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human. Offer yourself the same grace you’d give a close friend. Let yourself be new at something. Let the path take shape as you walk it.
The path to commitment isn’t always clear.
But it becomes walkable the moment you take one honest step.
After years of spinning in overcommitment and under-commitment, I’ve realized this:
Commitment isn’t a personality trait—it’s a skill.
You build it through micro actions, not grand gestures.
You don’t need perfect clarity to move forward—just enough courage to choose.
The more you align your commitments with your values, the less resistance you feel.
And when you strip away the noise, what really matters reveals itself.
Whether you’re committing to a new chapter, a project, a relationship—or just to making your bed each morning—it starts with one honest step.
And the more you practice showing up with presence, the stronger your self-trust becomes.
Because the truth is:
Your life will be shaped by what you choose to stay with.
Choose wisely.
And then begin.